At first I wasn’t going to chime in after reading Sunday’s the New York Times article “Honey, Don’t Bother Mommy. I’m Too Busy Building My Brand.” by Jennifer Mendelsohn. Then I read articles responding to it by other bloggers I respect and the many thought-provoking comments that were left. The mommy blogging word in is a tizzy, there’s even a Facebook page set up to protest the New York Times.

The more I read, the more I found myself pondering how I would respond, so I figured I might as well put my thoughts on my blog. After all, that’s who I am, I am a writer — and a mom who blogs. (I don’t like the title “mommy blogger” — it throws us all into one pot, and we all have such different blogs, different lives, different priorities, and different ambitions).

First of all, the article’s graphic was indulgent, filling the whole space above the fold, showing women — moms? — engaged with various electronic devise: a laptop on a bicycle and while driving a car (huh?) and holding a cell phone while dragging a child with the other hand.

As an avid attachment parenting advocate, I kind of got a kick out of the cartoon mom who is wearing her baby in a sling while also carrying a computer. Is the New York Times surprised about the outrage after this obnoxious depiction of moms?

Those moms who are addicted to their BlackBerry exist, and I wrote an article about this unfortunate trend not too long ago for the New York City Moms Blog: “BlackBerry or Little House on the Prairie?” We all have different thresholds about what is acceptable to us. I personally don’t want to be one of those moms who is buried in her cell phone when I’m with my child, that’s why I choose to stick with my ancient cell phone that doesn’t have a camera or access to the Internet. I also choose not to buy my child one of those computer games I see kids trailing their parents into stores with, completely oblivious about their surroundings.

After being assaulted by the seemingly mean-spirited graphic, one finally gets to the headline of the article (in the Fashion & Style section, ha!). Ouch! Plus, it was somewhat misleading in that the article didn’t even really address branding. If anything, it should have read “…too busy blogging.” Because if you are a mom who runs her blog like any other business, you know that blogging takes up a lot of your time and that writing the actual posts is the icing on the cake — after answering e-mail requests, figuring out HTML coding, changing your blog’s layout for the twentieth time, reading up on what the heck SEO and ROI stands for, etc.

But that doesn’t necessarily have to mean taking a lot of time from your family. Again, it’s about choices and priorities. I mostly blog at night, from 10:30 p.m. until, uh, 2 a.m.-ish, but if you are running a business, you can’t get around doing some things during the day. Well, I guess you can, but then you’ll end up with a lot of Twitter followers in Australia, like me.

Was that headline necessary? I would love to know who wrote it, the writer or some (male) editor? My response: I am running a household, I am raising a child, and I am running a business from home — and if you can’t applaud me for that, then you try it for a week! I will not be made to feel guilty for pursuing my passion and doing what I love. I don’t need the extra guilt, we feel torn in so many directions already as moms and put enough guilt on ourselves.

It would be easier and more lucrative to stick my son into preschool all week so I can work full-time out of the house or without constant distractions and demands in the house, but that is not the kind of childhood I want for him. I’d rather be home with him and buy less stuff. Again with the priorities.

Other things mentioned in the article that didn’t go down that well: “minivan crowd,” “girly bonding,” and “kaffeeklatsch” (although, as a native German speaker I was impressed that it was spelled correctly). I was a professional and an entrepreneur before I became a mom, and I still am. I do not drive a minivan; I am not a girl, I’m a woman; and I don’t look for girly bonding or a kaffeeklatsch when I attend a conference. I go there to learn more about my craft and my business, like millions of men do for their professions.

Personally, running around barefoot like Tiffany Romero at her Bloggy Boot Camp doesn’t scream professionalism to me, but she surely doesn’t deserve to be called a “sorority chairwoman” or “summer-camp director.” I don’t know her, but she seems to have a thriving business, so why characterize her like this? To me, the community of bloggers is the most welcoming and helpful bunch I have ever met. We all gladly cheer each other on and help and learn from each other, and I think that is why the blogging community is thriving and growing so fast in its influence.

“Tutu-making tutorial” — another ouch. Nothing wrong with someone writing about making tutus. If this is a dig about the quality of some blog entries, that’s another issue. As a blogger who takes a lot of time to make sure my posts look and sound professional, I have to admit that I sometimes cringe at the spelling and grammar mistakes I see on some blogs — it is hard for me to ignore those as a career proofreader and editor.

But not everyone has the talent or education to write like a seasoned journalist, and there are different degrees of professionalism in any line of business. Badly executed blogs won’t get many readers, just like badly run businesses don’t get many customers. And I make mistakes as well sometimes.

About the point of branding that was alluded to in the article’s title: what’s so wrong about moms building a brand? Men do it every day and get applauded for their efforts, but as a mom I am to feel guilty if I do the same? Yet: Ciaran Blumenfeld was quotes as saying, “The brands know they need a blogger. The bloggers know they need a brand.” I couldn’t agree less.

Maybe brands need bloggers, because women buy what other women talk about and recommend, but I don’t need a brand. I am my own brand. I knew from the beginning that I wanted to promote myself as a brand. There is only one Dagmar Bleasdale, and I’m opinionated and tenacious, and I figured I might as well make a living with my inability to censor my thoughts before they come out of my mouth. That’s why I got the URL DagmarBleasdale.com, not “CuteMommyBlogNumber205/bloggysomething.com.”

I could have been a refrigerator spokesperson and a The View ambassador, but that’s not what I am interested in. I didn’t start my blog to get free stuff — not that there is anything wrong with that. The PR firms found me and started sending things. I personally don’t read review-only blogs — I’m interested in the stories other moms have to tell and am humbled every day by amazing entries like this honest, powerful birth story.

I didn’t even know that there are some moms who only review products on their blogs. I started my blog to be a resource for other parents interested in natural birth, breastfeeding, green and frugal living, and to entertain my readers with my antics. I review about one out of ten products I get approached with and only the ones I think my readers would enjoy and benefit from.

But I also see my blog as only the start of something much bigger. While I decided to keep doing reviews for free for now so not to give the impression that my opinion can be bought, I wouldn’t be averse to a company I trust and like offering me a paying job.

I would welcome that opportunity just like I would welcome someone needing my proofreading, editing, or social media expertise. Someone wants to pay me to write for them? Absolutely, if it’s in line with what I stand for.

I do think it was about time for companies to reach out to moms to have more of a voice in shaping brands. Since we are the ones buying the majority of things, it was a huge missed opportunity not to ask for our input, but I’m also a little nervous about the kind of input companies are getting. I can’t influence what kind of bloggers will go for all the freebies corporations throw at them, I can only hope they are educated and tenacious to speak up when needed.

Why, for example, am I boycotting Nestle like many other breastfeeding advocates? Read up on it if you are interested. I can’t stop companies from making products with unnecessary fake colors, additives, and high-fructose corn syrup. But I can refuse to buy them and make a point to educate others with my blog to demand and shop for greener, non-toxic, healthy products and encourage and inform about breastfeeding, gentle attachment parenting, and eco-friendly behavior.

One thing mentioned in the article, that “bloggers and corporations are still forging the proper boundaries of their relationship,” is undeniably true. Many professional bloggers don’t know what to charge for their time, effort, and expertise since there are many bloggers who will work for free.

If companies are smart, they won’t throw free merchandise at just any blogging mom, they’ll do their research and approach professionally run blogs with a certain page rank and number of readers and a writer behind it who has the respect and admiration of moms and other bloggers. Those blogs might even charge a little for their reviews but will be read by many and not just Aunt Bernice.

Since all those blog stats can be found out without even having to ask the blogger, I encourage companies to do more research: I don’t want to be invited to a Ham Blogger Event again when I clearly write about avoiding meat and processed food as much as possible in our household. Known for my outspoken stance about promoting (extended) breastfeeding, I was once approached to promote formula. To quote Bethenny Frankel: Holy inappropriateness!

Yes, the New York Times article irked me, but I don’t see the need for name-calling. I don’t know the writer — a fellow blogger — or the mentioned bloggers, and I don’t know their intentions or ambitions. There is room for all of us, and there will be readers elated to find a tutu-making tutorial. Less professional blogs don’t threaten me, and I learn so much from more successful, more well-known ones every day. ‘Nuf said for now.

Mommy bloggers, what do you think? Keep the comments coming and the discussion going!

When I got wind of Martha Stewart planning a show about blogging, I made sure to apply for a ticket.

They wanted only bloggers in the audience and you had to fill out this whole questionnaire — I might have mentioned that Martha is my “neighbor” and that I am, after her, the person with the most Twitter followers in Katonah. A few days later, I received an e-mail that I was in. I was exited but, gulp, they wanted us there at 8:30 in the morning! How was I going to wing that?

After some back and forth, I decided to go, mostly because Don was able to take Landon to school and pick him up after lunch that day. Thank you, Sweets! So after only a few hours of sleep I got up at 5 a.m. and off I went on my Martha Stewart blogging show adventure!

I was amazed how many people board the train in Katonah at 6:30 in the morning. That’s a lot of sleep-deprived people hurdling toward New York City! After taking the train, a shuttle, and the subway, I arrived at the Chelsea studios at about 8 a.m. Can you tell that it was early in the morning?

While waiting to get into the show, I met Nicole, who blogs a The Pink Chandelier. She couldn’t have been nicer and was there with her mom.

Once we got our official ticket and passed through metal detectors, we were ushered into a room where we signed our life away and then got to mingle for half an hour before they let us in the studio.

Martha, Martha, Martha . . . and me, and merchandise.

After some instructions, were were let into the studio in groups. It’s beautifully decorated.

I have been on sets before when I lived in Los Angeles, so it wasn’t a surprise to me how many people it takes to make this show happen.

I got to sit right in the middle of the set and next to Dina from BabyCenter who I remembered seeing at my first blogging brunch a few months back.

They had planned to interview her on the show but then ran out of time, which was disappointing.

Everyone attending the show had to bring a laptop or a Blackberry so we could tweet and blog while the show was going on. Since I don’t own a Blackberry, read here why, I badgered Don into giving me his, only to find out that the “p” and the @ button didn’t work!

I somehow still managed to tweet about 10 times during the show.

Martha interviewed her daughter Alexis — who was unprepared for the show and a bit rude, actually — and her sidekick of the “Whatever” Girls, and made Pad Tai with a food blogger, Pim.

It smelled delicious and I was starving at that point. We all received her cook book after the show. I had secretly hoped that we would all get a cool little gadget, but this book is beautiful and I can use a lot of help with our new kinder, vegetarian diet.

So this book was a welcome gift, especially because it has a lot of pretty pictures.

Martha also iced a cake and did a craft project with two other bloggers. You can read more about all the guests on the show here.

Martha took a few questions after the show. She was very engaging and friendly and had great tips for everyone.

After the show, I said good-bye to a few bloggers, like Dina and Colleen, who blogs at Classy Mommy.

After I got turned around a couple of times and spent an extra $4.50 in subway fare, I made it back to Grand Central Station.

I had almost an hour to kill before the next train to Katonah, so I ate a quick bite and then remembered that a girlfriend of mine told me that the market there has a stand with German food. I had to check it out, of course.

Look at what I found! These are chocolate-covered marshmallow-ish “kisses” that I grew up with. No, I didn’t buy four boxes, not because I have that much self-control but because I am simply too frugal — I bought one and a few bags of licorice and gummy candy.

I even refrained from buying my favorite hazelnut Milka chocolate. That took some willpower, let me tell you.

I was a bit disappointed that the blogging show was really not about blogging but about a few blogs that mainly had to do with Martha, but I still had fun.

The most exiting aspect of the whole day was that I got to make some new blogging friends I intend to stay in contact with and learn from.

It would have been great if the show would have touched on how amazingly supportive the community of bloggers is.

I had taped the show, and you could see me about seven times. Landon was exited to see Mommy on TV. Martha, if you are ever short of a guest, swing by on your way to the studio!